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Do narcissists love their children?

Last Updated: 29.06.2025 13:23

Do narcissists love their children?

With my first pregnancy, I was terrified this would happen. It never did. With my second son, I was terrified I wouldn't have enough love for both children. As my friend Rae explained, "love just multiplies." It sure did!

I was too young to understand how my mother was insanely jealous.

I, too, heard a lot of "I wish I never had children," and, "Your father loves you more than he loves me."

I’m wondering about attachment and transference with the therapist and the idea of escape and fantasy? How much do you think your strong feelings, constant thoughts, desires to be with your therapist are a way to escape from your present life? I wonder if the transference serves another purpose than to show us our wounds and/or past experiences, but is a present coping strategy for managing what we don’t want to face (even if unconsciously) in the present—-current relationships, life circumstances, etc. Can anyone relate to this concept of escape in relation to their therapy relationship? How does this play out for you?

If an NPD mother does love her children, it's for what they bring to her, and I felt that I brought her nothing but pain and shame after I was finally born.

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My mother once said, "You'll see this happen when you have a baby: when the baby is inside of you, it's all yours. Once you give birth, the baby isn't yours anymore. It's everybody else's."

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So I don't understand how my mother looked at motherhood. I don't understand how she could look at a baby and it not be "hers" anymore. I was no more than an obligation, a millstone around her neck.

I'll never say as she did, “I wish I never had kids.” That's just too cruel to understand.